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January 21, 2013
Looking Up Newsletter
Good morning,
I mentioned way back last spring that I decided to go back to college. So far, so good. I’ve been able to juggle school, work, family, etc. My workouts and social life are often non-existent, but that’s how it goes sometimes.
I don’t tell the instructors what I do for a living, so the writing teachers have been quite comfortable letting me know that I still stink as a writer after all of these years! Good thing I’m still good at thumbing my nose at authority figures after all of these years.
I hope you are all finding ways to stretch, grow, learn, and improve yourselves without letting the critics get you down.
take care,
Skye Thomas
Tomorrow's Edge
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February 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
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Love's Dance
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An Astrological Guide to Finding Love and Long-Term Companionship
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Beyond the Inner Critic
When All Else Fails, Find Your Heart's Song and Sing Louder!
Inspirational Articles For Getting Past Those Days When Nothing Seems To Be Going Right
Voices: Divinity or Insanity?
Who is Skye Thomas?
Skye Thomas is the CEO of Tomorrow's Edge, an Internet leader in inspiring leaps of faith. Her books, articles, and astrological forecasts have inspired people of all ages and faiths to recommit themselves to the pursuit of happiness. To read more of her articles, previews of her books, and her astrology forecasts, go to www.TomorrowsEdge.net. To read more about Skye and to read archives of this free weekly newsletter, go to www.SkyeThomas.com.
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Quote of the Week:
No man will ever bring out of the Presidency the reputation, which carries him into it. - Thomas Jefferson
A real friend is someone who walks in when the rest of the world walks out. - Walter Winchell
Pleasure in the job puts perfection in the work. - Aristotle
Feature Article of the Week:
How Do You Build Self-Confidence?
Years ago while running an at-home daycare, I came to realize that we are all born with an innate sense of self-confidence. Every single child under the age of five that I have ever observed has had a strong self-confidence in at least one area of their life. Most kids had confidence in all areas of their lives. It seems to me that they systematically lose that confidence and it is replaced by an inner-critic. Quite often, it is the child’s home life, but sometimes it is the schools, neighborhood kids, extended family, or some other person who unknowingly destroys the child’s belief in themselves. Children have to be told they are not good enough, strong enough, smart enough, or talented enough to accomplish whatever it is they are trying to do. Unfortunately, most of us are told exactly that. So, how do we rebuild that sense of self-confidence?
The first thing I want you to do is to imagine that you had an ideal loving emotionally supportive childhood. Think about what kind of person you would have been if you had been raised to believe in yourself and in your natural gifts and talents. What were those gifts and talents? What were you really good at? What kinds of activities came easy for you? Now write down a list of talents, traits, attributes, and gifts that you loved and probably excelled at before you were convinced that you were not any good at them. Choose items from that list for the next step.
Self-confidence is destroyed one piece at a time. Therefore, you are going to rebuild it one piece at a time. Pick things from your list and plan tiny baby steps. Were you meant to be a great artist? Then start out by doodling. Just start carrying a pencil and paper around with you and allow yourself to absent-mindedly doodle little pictures. Eventually, allow the passion to find it is way through you and you will begin to draw bigger and better, adding paints or whatever medium you were always meant to use. Were you supposed to be a musician? Then start humming little tunes in your head, begin playing around with an instrument. If it is possible, carry an instrument around with you and whenever you are bored or have some downtime, just sit and absent-mindedly allow your fingers to play with it until the music within you begins calling to you again. Whatever the thing, pick something from your list and begin to play with it without paying a lot of attention to being perfect or talented or anything else. Just hold the tools and “space out” for a while so that you can get out of your own self-consciousness and just play with the tools. Nobody has to know about it if you do not want them to.
Repeat this process as much as you can. Keep picking up pieces of yourself on that list and adding them back into your sense of self. Do not wait until you have become really good at the first new skill before picking up another one. Just play with each item on your list as the mood crosses you. There is no need to beat yourself up for not being super talented because in reality all you are doing is simply playing with toys that remind you of your childhood. Allow your inner child, inner teenager, inner artist, inner musician, etc. to simply play. Eventually, you can sign up for classes if you want to really dig in and develop your talents. You will come to realize one day that you do have natural gifts and talents and that will go a long way towards building your self-confidence.
That is all good and well if your confidence problems center on skills, but what if your lack of self-confidence happens to be in the interpersonal relationships area? Are you painfully shy? Too afraid of rejection to even reach out to connect with others? Do you beat yourself up for not looking just so? Depending on the severity of your self-sabotaging belief system, you may want to get a professional therapist to help you with this. If it is not too bad, but you have less self-esteem then you would like to have, then ask someone that you trust to help you with this part. Ask your friend to point out examples of other people who look or act like you. For example, if you think you are fat and everyone says you are not, then have your friend point out to you other people who are built like you. Have them compare your figure to someone famous. Chances are they will not say Orson Wells! Few people are really horribly fat. Eventually, it will sink in that you are not as fat as you think you are. If you are worried that people will think you are stupid or dull when they first meet you, then have your friend rehearse with you so that you can feel comfortable making small talk with new people. Most run of the mill social fears you have or negative self-talk holding you back, can be overcome with the help of a trusted friend.
What if through practicing a new skill or through working on social skills and your personal image with a friend, you find out that you need to actually work on something? Maybe you do have a few pounds to lose. Maybe you need singing lessons. Okay, so be it. That is not a reason to quit moving forward with building upon your fragile new sense of self-confidence. Just go get the help, the lessons, the workout routine, the coaching, or whatever else it is that you need to continue moving forward. There will always be teachers and coaches of some sort because there will always be people reaching beyond where they already are. The only problem with a low self-confidence is that we stop giving ourselves permission to learn new things. The fact that we do not know how to be or do everything perfectly is not a good reason to lose confidence in ourselves. As long as you can play at new things and can learn, you are able to improve and grow. At some point, turn around and look at how far you have come. Pride will show itself.
Need someone to talk to about life's challenges?
Skye Thomas is available for life coaching.
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