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July 30th, 2012
Looking Up Newsletter
Good morning,
Many of you are returning from vacations to find your inboxes overloaded and all kinds of stressful issues that were left to fester in your absence. Others are stuck holding down the fort as your coworkers take their turns to sneak away for a much-needed bit of time off. Today's article is for those of you dealing with too much on your plate and not enough help to handle it all.
take care,
Skye Thomas
Tomorrow's Edge
...inspiring leaps of faith
www.TomorrowsEdge.net
Books, articles, newsletters,
life coaching, and horoscopes.
This Month's News of Interest:
August 2012 Monthly Horoscopes
The August monthly forecasts were sent out to the subscribers and posted to the website back on the 20th. Here are the links...
Aries August 2012 Horoscope
Taurus August 2012 Horoscope
Gemini August 2012 Horoscope
Cancer August 2012 Horoscope
Leo August 2012 Horoscope
Virgo August 2012 Horoscope
Libra August 2012 Horoscope
Scorpio August 2012 Horoscope
Sagittarius August 2012 Horoscope
Capricorn August 2012 Horoscope
Aquarius August 2012 Horoscope
Pisces August 2012 Horoscope
If the new horoscopes do not show up, please click on the “refresh” button within your browser.
2013 In-depth Horoscopes
All of the 2013 monthly horoscopes have been written -- that is 12 different monthly forecasts (January through December) for each of the 12 different zodiac signs. These monthly forecasts along with their corresponding yearly overview have been compiled and turned into paperback and PDF ebooks...
Aries 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Taurus 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Gemini 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Cancer 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Leo 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Virgo 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Libra 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Scorpio 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Sagittarius 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Capricorn 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Aquarius 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Pisces 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
In addition to getting them from our website, you can also get them directly from our publishers too...
Smashwords: Kindles, Nooks, and other ebooks formats
http://www.smashwords.com/profile/view/SkyeThomas
Lulu: Paperback books
http://www.lulu.com/spotlight/SkyeThomas
If all goes well they will soon be available on Amazon too!
Free 2013 Annual Overviews
The 2013 yearly horoscopes have been posted to the website. Here are the links...
Aries 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Taurus 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Gemini 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Cancer 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Leo 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Virgo 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Libra 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Scorpio 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Sagittarius 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Capricorn 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Aquarius 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Pisces 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Personalized versions of the 2013 Overviews are also available...
www.TomorrowsEdge.net/personalized-2013-horoscopes.html
Fun and unique goodies can be found at our Tomorrow's Edge Gift Shoppe!
Find out more about who you are...
Or if the two of you are compatible...
Or what's coming up around the next bend in the road!
Books by Skye Thomas
Love's Dance
Why Do I Keep Falling in Love With the Wrong People?
An Astrological Guide to Finding Love and Long-Term Companionship
Aries 2012
Taurus 2012
Gemini 2012
Cancer 2012
Leo 2012
Virgo 2012
Libra 2012
Scorpio 2012
Sagittarius 2012
Capricorn 2012
Aquarius 2012
Pisces 2012
Beyond the Inner Critic
When All Else Fails, Find Your Heart's Song and Sing Louder!
Inspirational Articles For Getting Past Those Days When Nothing Seems To Be Going Right
Voices: Divinity or Insanity?
Who is Skye Thomas?
Skye Thomas is the CEO of Tomorrow's Edge, an Internet leader in inspiring leaps of faith. Her books, articles, and astrological forecasts have inspired people of all ages and faiths to recommit themselves to the pursuit of happiness. To read more of her articles, previews of her books, and her astrology forecasts, go to www.TomorrowsEdge.net. To read more about Skye and to read archives of this free weekly newsletter, go to www.SkyeThomas.com.
Skye Thomas Websites
www.TomorrowsEdge.net
www.SkyeThomas.com
Quote of the Week:
Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up. - Thomas Edison, Inventor
I always remember an epitaph which is in the cemetery at Tombstone, Arizona. It says: "Here lies Jack Williams. He done his damnedest." I think that is the greatest epitaph a man can have - When he gives everything that is in him to do the job he has before him. That is all you can ask of him and that is what I have tried to do. - Harry Truman, 33rd US president
If I were dropped out of a plane into the ocean and told the nearest land was 1,000 miles away, I'd still swim. And I'd despise the one who gave up. - Abraham Maslow, Psychologist
Feature Article of the Week:
When Nothing Seems to be Going Right
It's more then just a bad hair day. Truth is, you don't even care how your hair looks because everything that can go wrong is going wrong. It's not like you created the problems yourself and are having to fix your own mess. That is easy enough to deal with. No, this is about those days when nobody takes you seriously, every light turns red when you are on a tight schedule as it is, and your spouse is in one of their darker moods. You drop your lunch in your lap and there is no way you can sneak back home to freshen up, the tax man just chose you for his next audit, and your sister calls to say she has a lump in her breast and is terrified to go in for a check up. Your boss tells you that you are doing an awesome job and deserve the pay raise you have asked for, but the company can't afford to give it to you.... and you love your job too much to quit. You cannot seem to get through the red tape of a bureaucracy that holds some sort of power over your ability to succeed at your dreams. The computer system goes down at work and you cannot finalize a very lucrative time sensitive deal that you were trying to close. No matter what you do, everything around you just seems to be going wrong and you are continually finding doors slammed in your face, brick walls in your path, and glass ceilings above you. How do you cope? How do you get out of the crazy maze that has you feeling trapped, alone, and helpless?
Yes, it's true that we often subconsciously create our own problems, but there is also another fact of life and that is... sometimes bad things happen to good people for no apparent reason. Unfortunately, sometimes a whole bunch of bad things happen all at once. The result can be very overwhelming. It is natural to want to give up and quit. Quit your job, quit your marriage, and quit your battle with the bureaucracy that is holding you back. It is also natural to want to punch something or someone and to simply force your way through the problems. Start bullying everyone while demanding that 'heads are gonna roll!' to anyone within earshot. Neither extreme really works in the long run.
The most important thing to do is to take a moment and catch your breath. So often people will keep on keeping on without really focusing on the big picture. They cannot see the forest for the trees and are just thrashing around trying to stomp out one fire after another without really analyzing the entire situation from an outside perspective. Take a step back and simply look at the whole thing as one great big problem with lots of little pieces. Remind yourself that if these problems were all spaced out so they happened one at a time - that you would be able to maneuver through each one without falling apart emotionally. It is the sheer number of events that come at you all at once that is the real problem.
Take a moment to organize your thoughts and to come up with a loose plan of action. By reminding yourself that you are technically capable of handling each one of these problems if it stood alone, you can begin to tap into your self-confidence which may be buried somewhere under all of the stress you are feeling in the moment. Square your shoulders and take a deep breath to gear up, telling yourself that you are capable of fixing all of these problems even if you hate having to do so. Do not waste your time on self-pity asking the 'why me' question... the answer will always be 'why not you? What makes you so special that you are not allowed to have really bad days?' so just let go of that whole concept. It's your turn to have a bad day, so let's just pull it together and start moving into a more comfortable, more positive direction.
Now, prioritize your problems, issues, and roadblocks. Only you can juggle in your mind which tasks need to be attended to first and which ones can wait. I might tell you to ignore your lunch stained outfit without knowing that later today you are going to make a multimillion-dollar presentation to a very important client who has flown half way around the world to hear your speech. I might tell you to drop everything and help your sister because family is so very very important in the long run, not knowing that your sister is a hypochondriac who is constantly crying wolf and really just wants your attention. Look at time sensitive issues, which issues create the most long-term effects, which ones can you delegate to someone else, and which ones will work themselves out given enough time. Do not spend all day analyzing what needs done and what really does not need done. Just make a quick reality check while you are squaring your shoulders and mentally run through the list of problems.
Then take out a sheet of paper and write down a loose game plan as to how you want to go about fixing, changing, and dealing with all of the various elements that will need to be handled. Write it down even if you normally do not use to-do lists because you have so many things to monitor and keep an eye on. Later when life is more stable and normal again, you can go back to keeping everything in your head. The reason you have to stay loose with your planning is that you will need to remain flexible and open to whatever domino effects, wild cards, and surprises might fall into place as the various dynamics unfold. This is not the time to be rigid, demanding that everything and everyone go along with your master plan. All that will do is alienate you from those who could maybe offer some assistance.
Finally, look over your plan; see that solving all of these problems and surviving this bad day is quite do-able. Realize that you have all of the skills you need and that it is simply a matter of time management, focus, and raw grit. Roll up your sleeves and get to work. Do not waste valuable problem solving energy on worrying and fretting over the things that are not at the top of the list. Monitor their status if you must, but keep moving through each item on your list until you start crossing them off. As more and more items are resolved, you should feel your self-esteem increase and your spirits will lift. What started out as a bad day could very well turn out to be an incredible day of accomplishments and brainstorming. You could find yourself bragging by the end of the day about all the trials and tribulations you managed to weave through. You didn't simply survive the day - you conquered it! There is nothing more powerful then a strong sense of self that comes from solving real life problems with a bit of moxie and tenacity.
Need someone to talk to about life's challenges?
Skye Thomas is available for life coaching.
Copyright 2005, Skye Thomas, Tomorrow’s Edge
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August 6th, 2012
Looking Up Newsletter
Good morning,
I hope you are all enjoying these dog days of summer.
take care,
Skye Thomas
Tomorrow's Edge
...inspiring leaps of faith
www.TomorrowsEdge.net
Books, articles, newsletters,
life coaching, and horoscopes.
This Month's News of Interest:
August 2012 Monthly Horoscopes
The August monthly forecasts were sent out to the subscribers and posted to the website a couple of weeks ago. Here are the links...
Aries August 2012 Horoscope
Taurus August 2012 Horoscope
Gemini August 2012 Horoscope
Cancer August 2012 Horoscope
Leo August 2012 Horoscope
Virgo August 2012 Horoscope
Libra August 2012 Horoscope
Scorpio August 2012 Horoscope
Sagittarius August 2012 Horoscope
Capricorn August 2012 Horoscope
Aquarius August 2012 Horoscope
Pisces August 2012 Horoscope
If the new horoscopes do not show up, please click on the “refresh” button within your browser.
2013 In-depth Horoscopes
All of the 2013 monthly horoscopes have been written -- that is 12 different monthly forecasts (January through December) for each of the 12 different zodiac signs. These monthly forecasts along with their corresponding yearly overview have been compiled and turned into paperback and PDF ebooks...
Aries 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Taurus 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Gemini 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Cancer 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Leo 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Virgo 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Libra 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Scorpio 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Sagittarius 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Capricorn 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Aquarius 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Pisces 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
In addition to getting them from our website, you can also get them directly from our publishers too...
Smashwords: Kindles, Nooks, and other ebooks formats
http://www.smashwords.com/profile/view/SkyeThomas
Lulu: Paperback books
http://www.lulu.com/spotlight/SkyeThomas
If all goes well they will soon be available on Amazon too!
Free 2013 Annual Overviews
The 2013 yearly horoscopes have been posted to the website. Here are the links...
Aries 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Taurus 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Gemini 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Cancer 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Leo 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Virgo 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Libra 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Scorpio 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Sagittarius 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Capricorn 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Aquarius 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Pisces 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Personalized versions of the 2013 Overviews are also available...
www.TomorrowsEdge.net/personalized-2013-horoscopes.html
Fun and unique goodies can be found at our Tomorrow's Edge Gift Shoppe!
Find out more about who you are...
Or if the two of you are compatible...
Or what's coming up around the next bend in the road!
Books by Skye Thomas
Love's Dance
Why Do I Keep Falling in Love With the Wrong People?
An Astrological Guide to Finding Love and Long-Term Companionship
Aries 2012
Taurus 2012
Gemini 2012
Cancer 2012
Leo 2012
Virgo 2012
Libra 2012
Scorpio 2012
Sagittarius 2012
Capricorn 2012
Aquarius 2012
Pisces 2012
Beyond the Inner Critic
When All Else Fails, Find Your Heart's Song and Sing Louder!
Inspirational Articles For Getting Past Those Days When Nothing Seems To Be Going Right
Voices: Divinity or Insanity?
Who is Skye Thomas?
Skye Thomas is the CEO of Tomorrow's Edge, an Internet leader in inspiring leaps of faith. Her books, articles, and astrological forecasts have inspired people of all ages and faiths to recommit themselves to the pursuit of happiness. To read more of her articles, previews of her books, and her astrology forecasts, go to www.TomorrowsEdge.net. To read more about Skye and to read archives of this free weekly newsletter, go to www.SkyeThomas.com.
Skye Thomas Websites
www.TomorrowsEdge.net
www.SkyeThomas.com
Quote of the Week:
Pleasure in the job puts perfection in the work. - Aristotle
When your work speaks for itself, don't interrupt. - Henry Kaiser, businessman
Money can't buy you happiness... but it does bring you a more pleasant form of misery. - Spike Milligan
Feature Article of the Week:
Sell Your Love
It is well documented that if we love our work, then we usually become experts at it and eventually the money shows up. Makes sense, but this is a slight shift on that concept. I want you to literally look at the concept of selling love for money. This has nothing to do with prostitution. Prostitution lacks love, which is the core of what is wrong with that industry. No, I'm talking about infusing your product with love before selling it. Love is a magical indescribable element that uplifts, nurtures, blesses, and lightens the recipient. Add it to your product and watch the profits soar.
By adding your love and light energy to your product, you are creating a product that uplifts, nurtures, blesses, or somehow lightens the life of the person purchasing your product. It will come across as so much more than just good customer service. If you have two identical items of the same quality and price, the one with joy will magnetize the buyer. They may or may not be able to describe exactly what it was that made that product stand out over the others.
My mother is a perfect example of this concept. She is an entrepreneur at heart without any form of business school or higher education. Every business she has ever run has been extremely successful. She is organized and business smart, but that is not what sets her apart from everyone else. She usually works in industries that she finds an interest in, however one time she decided to run an auto parts shop for my stepfather. She was definitely not an expert in that industry. However, she dove in with an upbeat positive can-do attitude and got to work. Besides selling a quality product at a quality price, she infused the entire shop with her electric energy and light. She is a natural salesman because she is so amazingly bright and cheerful. No matter what kind of business she is operating, she treats every customer like a small town neighbor that she has known all of her life. I did not grow up with her so as an adult visiting her, it was amazing for me to watch her work this special magic of hers. She makes everyone feel smart, special, and cared about. People like to do business with her. She can charge whatever she wants and work as few or as many hours as she likes because people will gladly pay for that feeling they get when in her presence. Her customers and employees treat her with a certain hero worship.
Whether you are selling a product that you really believe in, information that you are an excited expert in, or a service that you give from your heart, you can make a fortune by putting that kind of heart and soul into your business. You can give great customer service without any joyful lightness passing between you and the customer. Put that magical blend of love and brightness into every aspect of your work. It will create a magnetic attraction around your business. Others will be mysteriously drawn to you and after doing business with you they will want to come back again and again to do even more business with you. Make it an enjoyable wonderful experience for people to give you their money.
When you start your workday, take a moment and visualize yourself, your product, your company, your advertising, your communications, everything being surrounded in your most loving caring warm nurturing light. Say a little prayer that you want to truly give of your heart and soul on this day. Ask that the people who need your gift be shown the way to you so that you can bless them with your love and talents. Remind yourself that you are going to lovingly fulfill someone's unmet needs and they will gladly pay you for having done so. Send that joyful intention out to lead you throughout your workday. Let love magnetize your work throughout every stage from creation to sales.
What if you do not own the company or are not self-employed? What then? Your job consists of giving your time and labor away to a boss in exchange for a paycheck. The truth is that this still applies. Long before my mother ever created any of her companies, she had to work long hours doing lowly jobs for others. She always infused her work with that same go get 'em attitude and would typically end up in a supervisor position. I remember her telling me that she liked to show up for work at least half an hour early every day just to set up her work station and to make sure she had all of her ducks in a row before the official start time. Bosses love that kind of stuff. Of course she got the promotion. Think about it, if you had two equally talented employees to choose from and one just did the basic eight hour day and the other came in enthusiastically half an hour early every morning, which would you choose to promote to supervisor? When debating how much to give employees for pay raises, the enthusiastic employee who puts love and light into their work is always going to be given the biggest possible raise. Bosses are happy to write big fat paychecks to happy upbeat employees who put their heart and soul into their work. If your boss does not, then you can apply for a better paying position with another company. Your joyful enthusiasm will pay off eventually.
Love your work. Pick something that you can throw yourself into with joy. Love your product. Create the best product, service, or piece of information that you can. Love your company. Be glad for the chance to work and earn a living. Love your customers. They are people just like you who have many needs and want to come away feeling special and important. Do these things and the money will flow.
Need someone to talk to about life's challenges?
Skye Thomas is available for life coaching.
Copyright 2004, Skye Thomas, Tomorrow’s Edge
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Tomorrow's Edge
...inspiring leaps of faith
www.TomorrowsEdge.net
Books, articles, newsletters,
life coaching, and horoscopes.
Looking Up Newsletter
Good morning,
I hope you are all enjoying these dog days of summer.
take care,
Skye Thomas
Tomorrow's Edge
...inspiring leaps of faith
www.TomorrowsEdge.net
Books, articles, newsletters,
life coaching, and horoscopes.
This Month's News of Interest:
August 2012 Monthly Horoscopes
The August monthly forecasts were sent out to the subscribers and posted to the website a couple of weeks ago. Here are the links...
Aries August 2012 Horoscope
Taurus August 2012 Horoscope
Gemini August 2012 Horoscope
Cancer August 2012 Horoscope
Leo August 2012 Horoscope
Virgo August 2012 Horoscope
Libra August 2012 Horoscope
Scorpio August 2012 Horoscope
Sagittarius August 2012 Horoscope
Capricorn August 2012 Horoscope
Aquarius August 2012 Horoscope
Pisces August 2012 Horoscope
If the new horoscopes do not show up, please click on the “refresh” button within your browser.
2013 In-depth Horoscopes
All of the 2013 monthly horoscopes have been written -- that is 12 different monthly forecasts (January through December) for each of the 12 different zodiac signs. These monthly forecasts along with their corresponding yearly overview have been compiled and turned into paperback and PDF ebooks...
Aries 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Taurus 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Gemini 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Cancer 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Leo 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Virgo 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Libra 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Scorpio 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Sagittarius 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Capricorn 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Aquarius 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Pisces 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
In addition to getting them from our website, you can also get them directly from our publishers too...
Smashwords: Kindles, Nooks, and other ebooks formats
http://www.smashwords.com/profile/view/SkyeThomas
Lulu: Paperback books
http://www.lulu.com/spotlight/SkyeThomas
If all goes well they will soon be available on Amazon too!
Free 2013 Annual Overviews
The 2013 yearly horoscopes have been posted to the website. Here are the links...
Aries 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Taurus 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Gemini 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Cancer 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Leo 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Virgo 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Libra 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Scorpio 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Sagittarius 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Capricorn 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Aquarius 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Pisces 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Personalized versions of the 2013 Overviews are also available...
www.TomorrowsEdge.net/personalized-2013-horoscopes.html
Fun and unique goodies can be found at our Tomorrow's Edge Gift Shoppe!
Find out more about who you are...
Or if the two of you are compatible...
Or what's coming up around the next bend in the road!
Books by Skye Thomas
Love's Dance
Why Do I Keep Falling in Love With the Wrong People?
An Astrological Guide to Finding Love and Long-Term Companionship
Aries 2012
Taurus 2012
Gemini 2012
Cancer 2012
Leo 2012
Virgo 2012
Libra 2012
Scorpio 2012
Sagittarius 2012
Capricorn 2012
Aquarius 2012
Pisces 2012
Beyond the Inner Critic
When All Else Fails, Find Your Heart's Song and Sing Louder!
Inspirational Articles For Getting Past Those Days When Nothing Seems To Be Going Right
Voices: Divinity or Insanity?
Who is Skye Thomas?
Skye Thomas is the CEO of Tomorrow's Edge, an Internet leader in inspiring leaps of faith. Her books, articles, and astrological forecasts have inspired people of all ages and faiths to recommit themselves to the pursuit of happiness. To read more of her articles, previews of her books, and her astrology forecasts, go to www.TomorrowsEdge.net. To read more about Skye and to read archives of this free weekly newsletter, go to www.SkyeThomas.com.
Skye Thomas Websites
www.TomorrowsEdge.net
www.SkyeThomas.com
Quote of the Week:
Pleasure in the job puts perfection in the work. - Aristotle
When your work speaks for itself, don't interrupt. - Henry Kaiser, businessman
Money can't buy you happiness... but it does bring you a more pleasant form of misery. - Spike Milligan
Feature Article of the Week:
Sell Your Love
It is well documented that if we love our work, then we usually become experts at it and eventually the money shows up. Makes sense, but this is a slight shift on that concept. I want you to literally look at the concept of selling love for money. This has nothing to do with prostitution. Prostitution lacks love, which is the core of what is wrong with that industry. No, I'm talking about infusing your product with love before selling it. Love is a magical indescribable element that uplifts, nurtures, blesses, and lightens the recipient. Add it to your product and watch the profits soar.
By adding your love and light energy to your product, you are creating a product that uplifts, nurtures, blesses, or somehow lightens the life of the person purchasing your product. It will come across as so much more than just good customer service. If you have two identical items of the same quality and price, the one with joy will magnetize the buyer. They may or may not be able to describe exactly what it was that made that product stand out over the others.
My mother is a perfect example of this concept. She is an entrepreneur at heart without any form of business school or higher education. Every business she has ever run has been extremely successful. She is organized and business smart, but that is not what sets her apart from everyone else. She usually works in industries that she finds an interest in, however one time she decided to run an auto parts shop for my stepfather. She was definitely not an expert in that industry. However, she dove in with an upbeat positive can-do attitude and got to work. Besides selling a quality product at a quality price, she infused the entire shop with her electric energy and light. She is a natural salesman because she is so amazingly bright and cheerful. No matter what kind of business she is operating, she treats every customer like a small town neighbor that she has known all of her life. I did not grow up with her so as an adult visiting her, it was amazing for me to watch her work this special magic of hers. She makes everyone feel smart, special, and cared about. People like to do business with her. She can charge whatever she wants and work as few or as many hours as she likes because people will gladly pay for that feeling they get when in her presence. Her customers and employees treat her with a certain hero worship.
Whether you are selling a product that you really believe in, information that you are an excited expert in, or a service that you give from your heart, you can make a fortune by putting that kind of heart and soul into your business. You can give great customer service without any joyful lightness passing between you and the customer. Put that magical blend of love and brightness into every aspect of your work. It will create a magnetic attraction around your business. Others will be mysteriously drawn to you and after doing business with you they will want to come back again and again to do even more business with you. Make it an enjoyable wonderful experience for people to give you their money.
When you start your workday, take a moment and visualize yourself, your product, your company, your advertising, your communications, everything being surrounded in your most loving caring warm nurturing light. Say a little prayer that you want to truly give of your heart and soul on this day. Ask that the people who need your gift be shown the way to you so that you can bless them with your love and talents. Remind yourself that you are going to lovingly fulfill someone's unmet needs and they will gladly pay you for having done so. Send that joyful intention out to lead you throughout your workday. Let love magnetize your work throughout every stage from creation to sales.
What if you do not own the company or are not self-employed? What then? Your job consists of giving your time and labor away to a boss in exchange for a paycheck. The truth is that this still applies. Long before my mother ever created any of her companies, she had to work long hours doing lowly jobs for others. She always infused her work with that same go get 'em attitude and would typically end up in a supervisor position. I remember her telling me that she liked to show up for work at least half an hour early every day just to set up her work station and to make sure she had all of her ducks in a row before the official start time. Bosses love that kind of stuff. Of course she got the promotion. Think about it, if you had two equally talented employees to choose from and one just did the basic eight hour day and the other came in enthusiastically half an hour early every morning, which would you choose to promote to supervisor? When debating how much to give employees for pay raises, the enthusiastic employee who puts love and light into their work is always going to be given the biggest possible raise. Bosses are happy to write big fat paychecks to happy upbeat employees who put their heart and soul into their work. If your boss does not, then you can apply for a better paying position with another company. Your joyful enthusiasm will pay off eventually.
Love your work. Pick something that you can throw yourself into with joy. Love your product. Create the best product, service, or piece of information that you can. Love your company. Be glad for the chance to work and earn a living. Love your customers. They are people just like you who have many needs and want to come away feeling special and important. Do these things and the money will flow.
Need someone to talk to about life's challenges?
Skye Thomas is available for life coaching.
Copyright 2004, Skye Thomas, Tomorrow’s Edge
Webmasters: Looking for repeat traffic to your website? We Can Help
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Looking Up Newsletter
Good morning,
I am feeling stir crazy and in the mood to rearrange all of the furniture again. It's a simple but effective way for me to create/experience "clean slate" energy.
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August 2012 Monthly Horoscopes
The August monthly forecasts were sent out to the subscribers and posted to the website a couple of weeks ago. Here are the links...
Aries August 2012 Horoscope
Taurus August 2012 Horoscope
Gemini August 2012 Horoscope
Cancer August 2012 Horoscope
Leo August 2012 Horoscope
Virgo August 2012 Horoscope
Libra August 2012 Horoscope
Scorpio August 2012 Horoscope
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Aries 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
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Inspirational Articles For Getting Past Those Days When Nothing Seems To Be Going Right
Voices: Divinity or Insanity?
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Skye Thomas is the CEO of Tomorrow's Edge, an Internet leader in inspiring leaps of faith. Her books, articles, and astrological forecasts have inspired people of all ages and faiths to recommit themselves to the pursuit of happiness. To read more of her articles, previews of her books, and her astrology forecasts, go to www.TomorrowsEdge.net. To read more about Skye and to read archives of this free weekly newsletter, go to www.SkyeThomas.com.
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Quote of the Week:
All married couples should learn the art of battle as they should learn the art of making love. Good battle is objective and honest--never vicious or cruel. Good battle is healthy and constructive, and brings to a marriage the principle of equal partnership. - Ann Landers
Marriage is our last, best chance to grow up. - Joseph Barth
I first learned the concepts of non-violence in my marriage. - Mohandas K. Gandhi
Feature Article of the Week:
Breaking the Dysfunctional Family Patterns
It is one of the most difficult things you will ever do and it is one of the most rewarding things. At some point, you will decide that what you are experiencing is not what you want for your children. You will want to raise them differently from how you were raised but you probably will not have a clue how to make that happen. What has to happen is rather simple, but takes such amazing commitment, that you will think you must be doing it wrong.
I am going to use the example of physical violence as the pattern of family dysfunction to be avoided, but you could just as easily replace it with sexual abuse, verbal abuse, drugs, drinking, pathological liars, narcissism, or any number of incredibly destructive family patterns. As you read through this, understand that the process of breaking free of this dynamic is the same regardless of which particular flavor of hell your family specializes in. This is not about simple annoying traits, like obsessive housecleaning, sloppy organization skills, or too much butter in the diet. This is about those big ugly patterns that destroy the heart and soul of the individuals within the family. For simplicity's sake, I will just use physical violence because it is easy for everyone to wrap their minds around it and it does not require a lot of explanation, but feel free to insert your family's nightmare into the formula and you will still get the basic understanding that you need.
The first thing that happens is that you will come to realize that how you were raised was wrong. You analyze alone or in therapy just how much the physical violence in your family has affected you personally and how it affected those that you grew up with. Look at your children and make a decision right then and there, are you going to raise them the same way? Yes or no? You will decide NOT to raise your children the way that you were raised because if you were the type who has no problem with raising your children in a violent home, you would NOT be reading this anyway. Many times over, you will come back to this commitment that you are making to your children. For their sake, you will be the one who stops the cycle.
Studies have shown over and over again that children who grow up being violently beaten by their caregivers repeat the abusive behavior toward their own children. Generation after generation of children are beaten because that is all the parents know. It is a painful horrible pattern that never ends. You are making a commitment to your children to not carry on the family tradition. Imagine a wheel that has an incredible force behind it, spinning spinning spinning... that is your family's history with violence. As each parent deals with stress and problems they find themselves hitting their children while on autopilot, just the same way that they were hit. You are making a decision to stop that wheel from spinning and you have a huge task in front of you. It is going to take so much more then just a one-time decision that you would prefer not to be like your folks.
Educate yourself about the inner workings of physical abuse. Become an expert on the topic because you need to have a thorough understanding of what you are up against. You will want to educate your family members and to help them all come to the same conclusion that you have come to. You will naturally want your entire extended family to make this commitment to future generations that you are making. It will not happen. I have never ever heard of an entire family of child beaters all suddenly deciding together that all of them are going to go through this process at the same time. The truth is that you will be lucky if anyone in your family supports your decision. The nature of these sorts of things dictates that everyone is going to deny that it is even a problem. "Why do you have to get everyone all worked up anyway? Why can't you just leave well enough alone? What's wrong with you that you have to meddle in everyone else's business?" That is what you are up against. It is part of what you will come to learn as you study the dysfunctional patterns of denial and unity that weaves through families with this secret in their lives.
You will have to separate yourself from your family. I am not saying that you emotionally distance yourself. I am telling you to pack up your children and move away. Do not live anywhere near them. If you yourself make the decision to go through the process of breaking the cycle of violence but your children grow up watching Uncle Joe beat up their cousins, or Grandpa beats up Grandma whenever they get into big fights, then they will still be witness to the abuse and to the psychology of the abuse. They will become desensitized and will grow to just blow it off as what families do even though you personally do not do it to them. You run the risk that rather than actually stopping the family cycle for your children and future grandchildren that all your hard work and effort to make positive change only causes the violence to skip a generation. How will you feel when you find out that your child is beating your grandchild even though you never did it? You have to get your kids away from the dynamic so that it is never role modeled to them by anyone ever.
This means that you will be alone without a support system. You might be lucky enough to have a loving spouse, but the truth is that most people who come from these sorts of families have a hard time maintaining positive loving marriages. It is a piece of what you are trying to change. People who are raised in violence often unknowingly pick partners who are of the same background. Like attracts like on a subconscious level. You do not want to beat your wife and you do not want to be beaten by your husband. So most likely, you are a single parent by the time you are making this commitment to your children. By changing the patterns of your life, you are preparing yourself for the day when you will no longer be attracted to violent people. You will most likely be all alone while moving away to a safe location to raise your children. It is very difficult to find a support system of friends and acquaintances. When a crisis shows itself people will immediately assume that you have family to help bail you out. Most people will be too busy with their own extended families to really offer you much assistance. Do not be fooled into thinking that you will have a lot of loving coworkers or neighbors like on television to help you through your problems. It is rare at best and you need to understand that you will have to work hard by yourself during most of the normal highs and lows of life. You have to remind yourself when tempted to move back to your hometown why it is that you are not going back there. It is better to be lonely than it is to have your children raised in violence.
You would think that if you have made the decision to not become a violent parent and you have removed your children from the environment, that you would have pretty much accomplished your goal, but that is just the beginning. How many of us have told ourselves that when we grow up we will not do what our parents do? I swore that I would never say to my children, "Because I said so." Yet, it happened. I swore that I would not say and do all sorts of annoying little things that my parents said and did. Most of these things are silly not too important things. We can laugh and joke about it, "Look at me, I've become my mother!" Unfortunately, in the same way that you cannot believe it when you find yourself quoting your father, you also will be standing there in shock when you raise a hand to hit your child and you had no idea that you were about to do that. It is like you are running on autopilot and you will freak out when you find that reaction is within you. It will take everything in your being to stop yourself. Your children have been raised in a kind loving home and when you do lose your mind and strike one of them, they will be absolutely shattered. They are not acclimatized to that sort of reaction from you. It makes them more easily frightened and confused when it happens to them. You have to become extremely diligent about monitoring yourself so that you never slip up and become like the very people that you are trying to get away from. It is the hardest part of the process and it is a personal battle that nobody can really help you with.
You can see a therapist, join a church, and make friends with your new neighbors and coworkers. You can even get married to a wonderful loving partner, but nobody can really help you with the deep dark piece of you that would strike another when angry or in pain. It is not your fault that it is there, but it is your fault if you allow it to take over. You have to self-monitor, self-monitor, self-monitor so much more than others have to. You cannot get drunk because it raises the risk of you losing control and hitting your kids. You have to work extra hard at monitoring everything you do watching for the first sign that the violence will break out of you and take over. Do not let anybody fool you into thinking that with a few positive affirmations and some feel good conversations that you will not be seriously challenged. This is the part where you seriously have to move against that wheel that is spinning out of control.
Eventually, you will come to see that it gets easier. As the years go on, you will find positive tools to handle angry situations. You will find inner peace. You will learn how to parent your children without physically hurting them and without simply allowing them to do whatever they want. It is not unusual for people who are trying to keep from hitting their kids to go overboard in the opposite direction and to never ever discipline their children. This harms your children in other ways. You will address these things. You will find ways to be a good parent, disciplining, role modeling, and loving your family without the dysfunctional patterns of your childhood controlling you. You will heal your own wounds as best you can while creating a new life for your children.
At some point, you will see that your children do not have your hang ups. They do not hit each other. When they hear of friends at school being mistreated, they are shocked and outraged by the stories. Your teenage daughter will not date someone abusive. Your teenage son would never use his physical strength as a way of controlling those around him. They discuss problems and solutions rather than resorting to violence. When you finally decide to take them to visit your family over Christmas, they will be offended at the dysfunctional nightmare that your family sweeps under the rug. This is when you will realize that you have broken the cycle. You have given your children a chance at a completely different reality then what you have had to undergo. They will not harm your grandchildren. You have held back the power of the family rage and you have broken the cycle for your children's sake. You will be moved to tears when you see that they will not be living your nightmare. It is the most beautiful reward, knowing that the future generations are safe.
Need someone to talk to about life's challenges?
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Copyright 2005, Skye Thomas, Tomorrow’s Edge
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Looking Up Newsletter
Good morning,
I am feeling stir crazy and in the mood to rearrange all of the furniture again. It's a simple but effective way for me to create/experience "clean slate" energy.
take care,
Skye Thomas
Tomorrow's Edge
...inspiring leaps of faith
www.TomorrowsEdge.net
Books, articles, newsletters,
life coaching, and horoscopes.
This Month's News of Interest:
August 2012 Monthly Horoscopes
The August monthly forecasts were sent out to the subscribers and posted to the website a couple of weeks ago. Here are the links...
Aries August 2012 Horoscope
Taurus August 2012 Horoscope
Gemini August 2012 Horoscope
Cancer August 2012 Horoscope
Leo August 2012 Horoscope
Virgo August 2012 Horoscope
Libra August 2012 Horoscope
Scorpio August 2012 Horoscope
Sagittarius August 2012 Horoscope
Capricorn August 2012 Horoscope
Aquarius August 2012 Horoscope
Pisces August 2012 Horoscope
If the new horoscopes do not show up, please click on the “refresh” button within your browser.
2013 In-depth Horoscopes
All of the 2013 monthly horoscopes have been written -- that is 12 different monthly forecasts (January through December) for each of the 12 different zodiac signs. These monthly forecasts along with their corresponding yearly overview have been compiled and turned into paperback and PDF ebooks...
Aries 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Taurus 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Gemini 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Cancer 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Leo 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Virgo 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Libra 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Scorpio 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Sagittarius 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Capricorn 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Aquarius 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
Pisces 2013 Monthly Horoscopes
In addition to getting them from our website, you can also get them directly from our publishers too...
Smashwords: Kindles, Nooks, and other ebooks formats
http://www.smashwords.com/profile/view/SkyeThomas
Lulu: Paperback books
http://www.lulu.com/spotlight/SkyeThomas
If all goes well they will soon be available on Amazon too!
Free 2013 Annual Overviews
The 2013 yearly horoscopes have been posted to the website. Here are the links...
Aries 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Taurus 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Gemini 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Cancer 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Leo 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Virgo 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Libra 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Scorpio 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Sagittarius 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Capricorn 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Aquarius 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Pisces 2013 Yearly Horoscope
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Books by Skye Thomas
Love's Dance
Why Do I Keep Falling in Love With the Wrong People?
An Astrological Guide to Finding Love and Long-Term Companionship
Aries 2012
Taurus 2012
Gemini 2012
Cancer 2012
Leo 2012
Virgo 2012
Libra 2012
Scorpio 2012
Sagittarius 2012
Capricorn 2012
Aquarius 2012
Pisces 2012
Beyond the Inner Critic
When All Else Fails, Find Your Heart's Song and Sing Louder!
Inspirational Articles For Getting Past Those Days When Nothing Seems To Be Going Right
Voices: Divinity or Insanity?
Who is Skye Thomas?
Skye Thomas is the CEO of Tomorrow's Edge, an Internet leader in inspiring leaps of faith. Her books, articles, and astrological forecasts have inspired people of all ages and faiths to recommit themselves to the pursuit of happiness. To read more of her articles, previews of her books, and her astrology forecasts, go to www.TomorrowsEdge.net. To read more about Skye and to read archives of this free weekly newsletter, go to www.SkyeThomas.com.
Skye Thomas Websites
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Quote of the Week:
All married couples should learn the art of battle as they should learn the art of making love. Good battle is objective and honest--never vicious or cruel. Good battle is healthy and constructive, and brings to a marriage the principle of equal partnership. - Ann Landers
Marriage is our last, best chance to grow up. - Joseph Barth
I first learned the concepts of non-violence in my marriage. - Mohandas K. Gandhi
Feature Article of the Week:
Breaking the Dysfunctional Family Patterns
It is one of the most difficult things you will ever do and it is one of the most rewarding things. At some point, you will decide that what you are experiencing is not what you want for your children. You will want to raise them differently from how you were raised but you probably will not have a clue how to make that happen. What has to happen is rather simple, but takes such amazing commitment, that you will think you must be doing it wrong.
I am going to use the example of physical violence as the pattern of family dysfunction to be avoided, but you could just as easily replace it with sexual abuse, verbal abuse, drugs, drinking, pathological liars, narcissism, or any number of incredibly destructive family patterns. As you read through this, understand that the process of breaking free of this dynamic is the same regardless of which particular flavor of hell your family specializes in. This is not about simple annoying traits, like obsessive housecleaning, sloppy organization skills, or too much butter in the diet. This is about those big ugly patterns that destroy the heart and soul of the individuals within the family. For simplicity's sake, I will just use physical violence because it is easy for everyone to wrap their minds around it and it does not require a lot of explanation, but feel free to insert your family's nightmare into the formula and you will still get the basic understanding that you need.
The first thing that happens is that you will come to realize that how you were raised was wrong. You analyze alone or in therapy just how much the physical violence in your family has affected you personally and how it affected those that you grew up with. Look at your children and make a decision right then and there, are you going to raise them the same way? Yes or no? You will decide NOT to raise your children the way that you were raised because if you were the type who has no problem with raising your children in a violent home, you would NOT be reading this anyway. Many times over, you will come back to this commitment that you are making to your children. For their sake, you will be the one who stops the cycle.
Studies have shown over and over again that children who grow up being violently beaten by their caregivers repeat the abusive behavior toward their own children. Generation after generation of children are beaten because that is all the parents know. It is a painful horrible pattern that never ends. You are making a commitment to your children to not carry on the family tradition. Imagine a wheel that has an incredible force behind it, spinning spinning spinning... that is your family's history with violence. As each parent deals with stress and problems they find themselves hitting their children while on autopilot, just the same way that they were hit. You are making a decision to stop that wheel from spinning and you have a huge task in front of you. It is going to take so much more then just a one-time decision that you would prefer not to be like your folks.
Educate yourself about the inner workings of physical abuse. Become an expert on the topic because you need to have a thorough understanding of what you are up against. You will want to educate your family members and to help them all come to the same conclusion that you have come to. You will naturally want your entire extended family to make this commitment to future generations that you are making. It will not happen. I have never ever heard of an entire family of child beaters all suddenly deciding together that all of them are going to go through this process at the same time. The truth is that you will be lucky if anyone in your family supports your decision. The nature of these sorts of things dictates that everyone is going to deny that it is even a problem. "Why do you have to get everyone all worked up anyway? Why can't you just leave well enough alone? What's wrong with you that you have to meddle in everyone else's business?" That is what you are up against. It is part of what you will come to learn as you study the dysfunctional patterns of denial and unity that weaves through families with this secret in their lives.
You will have to separate yourself from your family. I am not saying that you emotionally distance yourself. I am telling you to pack up your children and move away. Do not live anywhere near them. If you yourself make the decision to go through the process of breaking the cycle of violence but your children grow up watching Uncle Joe beat up their cousins, or Grandpa beats up Grandma whenever they get into big fights, then they will still be witness to the abuse and to the psychology of the abuse. They will become desensitized and will grow to just blow it off as what families do even though you personally do not do it to them. You run the risk that rather than actually stopping the family cycle for your children and future grandchildren that all your hard work and effort to make positive change only causes the violence to skip a generation. How will you feel when you find out that your child is beating your grandchild even though you never did it? You have to get your kids away from the dynamic so that it is never role modeled to them by anyone ever.
This means that you will be alone without a support system. You might be lucky enough to have a loving spouse, but the truth is that most people who come from these sorts of families have a hard time maintaining positive loving marriages. It is a piece of what you are trying to change. People who are raised in violence often unknowingly pick partners who are of the same background. Like attracts like on a subconscious level. You do not want to beat your wife and you do not want to be beaten by your husband. So most likely, you are a single parent by the time you are making this commitment to your children. By changing the patterns of your life, you are preparing yourself for the day when you will no longer be attracted to violent people. You will most likely be all alone while moving away to a safe location to raise your children. It is very difficult to find a support system of friends and acquaintances. When a crisis shows itself people will immediately assume that you have family to help bail you out. Most people will be too busy with their own extended families to really offer you much assistance. Do not be fooled into thinking that you will have a lot of loving coworkers or neighbors like on television to help you through your problems. It is rare at best and you need to understand that you will have to work hard by yourself during most of the normal highs and lows of life. You have to remind yourself when tempted to move back to your hometown why it is that you are not going back there. It is better to be lonely than it is to have your children raised in violence.
You would think that if you have made the decision to not become a violent parent and you have removed your children from the environment, that you would have pretty much accomplished your goal, but that is just the beginning. How many of us have told ourselves that when we grow up we will not do what our parents do? I swore that I would never say to my children, "Because I said so." Yet, it happened. I swore that I would not say and do all sorts of annoying little things that my parents said and did. Most of these things are silly not too important things. We can laugh and joke about it, "Look at me, I've become my mother!" Unfortunately, in the same way that you cannot believe it when you find yourself quoting your father, you also will be standing there in shock when you raise a hand to hit your child and you had no idea that you were about to do that. It is like you are running on autopilot and you will freak out when you find that reaction is within you. It will take everything in your being to stop yourself. Your children have been raised in a kind loving home and when you do lose your mind and strike one of them, they will be absolutely shattered. They are not acclimatized to that sort of reaction from you. It makes them more easily frightened and confused when it happens to them. You have to become extremely diligent about monitoring yourself so that you never slip up and become like the very people that you are trying to get away from. It is the hardest part of the process and it is a personal battle that nobody can really help you with.
You can see a therapist, join a church, and make friends with your new neighbors and coworkers. You can even get married to a wonderful loving partner, but nobody can really help you with the deep dark piece of you that would strike another when angry or in pain. It is not your fault that it is there, but it is your fault if you allow it to take over. You have to self-monitor, self-monitor, self-monitor so much more than others have to. You cannot get drunk because it raises the risk of you losing control and hitting your kids. You have to work extra hard at monitoring everything you do watching for the first sign that the violence will break out of you and take over. Do not let anybody fool you into thinking that with a few positive affirmations and some feel good conversations that you will not be seriously challenged. This is the part where you seriously have to move against that wheel that is spinning out of control.
Eventually, you will come to see that it gets easier. As the years go on, you will find positive tools to handle angry situations. You will find inner peace. You will learn how to parent your children without physically hurting them and without simply allowing them to do whatever they want. It is not unusual for people who are trying to keep from hitting their kids to go overboard in the opposite direction and to never ever discipline their children. This harms your children in other ways. You will address these things. You will find ways to be a good parent, disciplining, role modeling, and loving your family without the dysfunctional patterns of your childhood controlling you. You will heal your own wounds as best you can while creating a new life for your children.
At some point, you will see that your children do not have your hang ups. They do not hit each other. When they hear of friends at school being mistreated, they are shocked and outraged by the stories. Your teenage daughter will not date someone abusive. Your teenage son would never use his physical strength as a way of controlling those around him. They discuss problems and solutions rather than resorting to violence. When you finally decide to take them to visit your family over Christmas, they will be offended at the dysfunctional nightmare that your family sweeps under the rug. This is when you will realize that you have broken the cycle. You have given your children a chance at a completely different reality then what you have had to undergo. They will not harm your grandchildren. You have held back the power of the family rage and you have broken the cycle for your children's sake. You will be moved to tears when you see that they will not be living your nightmare. It is the most beautiful reward, knowing that the future generations are safe.
Need someone to talk to about life's challenges?
Skye Thomas is available for life coaching.
Copyright 2005, Skye Thomas, Tomorrow’s Edge
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New Year's Day is the first day of the year, January 1st.
The celebration of this holiday begins the night before on New Year's Eve, when Americans gather to wish each other a happy and prosperous coming year. At the stroke of midnight on New Year's Eve, people cheer and sing "Auld Lang Syne." The song, which means "old long since" or roughly "the good old days," was written by Robert Burns in 1788.
Making New Year's resolutions – pledges to change for the better in the coming year – is a common activity associated with this holiday. It is traditional to make toasts on New Year's Eve as well. Typically, the old year is represented by "Father Time," an elderly man with a flowing gray beard, and the new year is represented by an infant.
One of the largest New Year's Eve celebrations in the world is at Times Square in New York City where the New Year's Eve Ball descends at the stroke of midnight. The "dropping of the ball" is a custom derived from harbor time signals, a common visual synchronization procedure once used primarily for navigation and astronomy. Times Square has been the center of worldwide attention since 1904 when the owners of One Times Square began conducting rooftop celebrations to usher in the new year.
New Year's Day is the oldest and most universal holiday. The Romans were the first to observe January 1 as New Year's Day in 153 B.C. In 1582, Pope Gregory XIII instituted the Gregorian calendar still in use today, setting January 1 as New Year's Day. Prior to this, many countries celebrated the new year on April 1st in celebration with the new spring season. It was celebrated much the same way as it is today with parties and dancing into the late hours of the night. The origin of April Fools' Day can be traced to this change.
The celebration of this holiday begins the night before on New Year's Eve, when Americans gather to wish each other a happy and prosperous coming year. At the stroke of midnight on New Year's Eve, people cheer and sing "Auld Lang Syne." The song, which means "old long since" or roughly "the good old days," was written by Robert Burns in 1788.
Making New Year's resolutions – pledges to change for the better in the coming year – is a common activity associated with this holiday. It is traditional to make toasts on New Year's Eve as well. Typically, the old year is represented by "Father Time," an elderly man with a flowing gray beard, and the new year is represented by an infant.
One of the largest New Year's Eve celebrations in the world is at Times Square in New York City where the New Year's Eve Ball descends at the stroke of midnight. The "dropping of the ball" is a custom derived from harbor time signals, a common visual synchronization procedure once used primarily for navigation and astronomy. Times Square has been the center of worldwide attention since 1904 when the owners of One Times Square began conducting rooftop celebrations to usher in the new year.
New Year's Day is the oldest and most universal holiday. The Romans were the first to observe January 1 as New Year's Day in 153 B.C. In 1582, Pope Gregory XIII instituted the Gregorian calendar still in use today, setting January 1 as New Year's Day. Prior to this, many countries celebrated the new year on April 1st in celebration with the new spring season. It was celebrated much the same way as it is today with parties and dancing into the late hours of the night. The origin of April Fools' Day can be traced to this change.
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New Year's Eve is the last day of the year, December 31st.
The celebration of this holiday begins when Americans gather to wish each other a happy and prosperous coming year. At the stroke of midnight on New Year's Eve, people cheer and sing "Auld Lang Syne." The song, which means "old long since" or roughly "the good old days," was written by Robert Burns in 1788.
Making New Year's resolutions – pledges to change for the better in the coming year – is a common activity associated with this holiday. It is traditional to make toasts on New Year's Eve as well. Typically, the old year is represented by "Father Time," an elderly man with a flowing gray beard, and the new year is represented by an infant.
One of the largest celebrations in the world is at Times Square in New York City where the New Year's Eve Ball descends at the stroke of midnight. The "dropping of the ball" is a custom derived from harbor time signals, a common visual synchronization procedure once used primarily for navigation and astronomy. Times Square has been the center of worldwide attention since 1904 when the owners of One Times Square began conducting rooftop celebrations to usher in the new year.
New Year's Day is the oldest and most universal holiday. The Romans were the first to observe January 1 as New Year's Day in 153 B.C. In 1582, Pope Gregory XIII instituted the Gregorian calendar still in use today, setting January 1 as New Year's Day. Prior to this, many countries celebrated the new year on April 1st in celebration with the new spring season. It was celebrated much the same way as it is today with parties and dancing into the late hours of the night. The origin of April Fools' Day can be traced to this change.
The celebration of this holiday begins when Americans gather to wish each other a happy and prosperous coming year. At the stroke of midnight on New Year's Eve, people cheer and sing "Auld Lang Syne." The song, which means "old long since" or roughly "the good old days," was written by Robert Burns in 1788.
Making New Year's resolutions – pledges to change for the better in the coming year – is a common activity associated with this holiday. It is traditional to make toasts on New Year's Eve as well. Typically, the old year is represented by "Father Time," an elderly man with a flowing gray beard, and the new year is represented by an infant.
One of the largest celebrations in the world is at Times Square in New York City where the New Year's Eve Ball descends at the stroke of midnight. The "dropping of the ball" is a custom derived from harbor time signals, a common visual synchronization procedure once used primarily for navigation and astronomy. Times Square has been the center of worldwide attention since 1904 when the owners of One Times Square began conducting rooftop celebrations to usher in the new year.
New Year's Day is the oldest and most universal holiday. The Romans were the first to observe January 1 as New Year's Day in 153 B.C. In 1582, Pope Gregory XIII instituted the Gregorian calendar still in use today, setting January 1 as New Year's Day. Prior to this, many countries celebrated the new year on April 1st in celebration with the new spring season. It was celebrated much the same way as it is today with parties and dancing into the late hours of the night. The origin of April Fools' Day can be traced to this change.
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